Sunday, 3 October 2010

Change #22: Mindful speaking

This mindful stuff is very effective and terribly up to the minute in my work too. I've noticed that what I say is affected by the people I am with. If I'm with critical people, I criticise; if I'm with funny people I joke and laugh; if I'm with articulate people, I'm more articulate. I'm not happy with this state of affairs. I want to be me whomsoever I am with. I want to be able to maintain my integrity and say what I think along with thinking about what I say. So change #22.
I know it's pretty normal to reflect the people we spend time with, but I'm not sure how many people are quite as changeable/malleable as me. Also I'm not sure why I do it. It could be that I'm just a wishy washy person who cannot stand her ground or it could be that I like to make other people feel comfortable, at my own cost. I'm hoping that a spot of mindful speaking will clarify things for me, and let me know more about myself, while revealing more of myself.

  1. No alcohol – Having enjoyed a couple of glasses of wine, I then had a stonking headache in the middle of the night. Interesting
  2. Mindful eating – This is so much healthier for me, and actually I have stopped fretting about what other people say to me
  3. Daily body scan – This needs to be done properly, skimping is not working. If I cannot give myself 45 mins a day to feel better physically, it is a sad state of affairs
  4. Charity shop shopping – I've just remembered I was thinking about having a sort out. I will do by the end of the week
  5. Mindful breathing every hour – this too has slipped a little. I do it as and when, but I want to be more conscious so am going to find a way to remember more consistently
  6. Remembering my friends – I have even started to think of friends who I might not have seen for a while and consciously bring them back
  7. Smiling regularly – 'As you like it' at the West Yorkshire Playhouse, gave me a week's worth of smiles and laughs, but I still have every intention of smiling all week too.
  8. Help if and when I can – have worked too long and hard this week, which means I have said 'yes' without really appreciating the consequences for myself. If life ends up all about making others feel better, without being kind to myself, it is far too unbalanced.
  9. Italian conversation class – I loved it. I have been practising and am waiting for my CDs. Anthony and I had a chat briefly when he arrived home from work one evening, and I spoke in Italian to Christopher when he called from Italy.
  10. Becoming a blogger – this is fun, but I feel a sense of obligation to keep it up. Not sure if it is to myself, or my audience
  11. Writing 10 mins daily – little bits here and there. I'm wondering about starting an entity that I just add 10 minutes' worth of writing to each day.
  12. Drinking a glass of water every hour – this has slipped with the breathing so I am on a mission to improve. I feel it has amazing benefits.
  13. Thinking about it, before I say yes or no – see above!
  14. Having my eyes tested – am slowly starting to adjust to my new specs
  15. Walking in the fresh air every day – this is proving to be an impossible challenge, but I'm not ready to admit defeat
  16. Pilates core exercise throughout day – still doing this
  17. Listening to my needs – this is very much about eating and drinking at the moment, but am also aware of other needs that are not being addressed like socialising and exercising. Watch this space
  18. Mindful spending – very aware of what I am spending at the moment. It has been a tight month and I have still managed to save a little for a rainy day
  19. Neck exercises – could do more
  20. Accepting compliments – not receiving many, but when I am, I try really hard to just say 'thank you'
  21. Really saying thank you to people – enjoying this. Am doing it a lot with people at work, who work for me. I like it

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